Laura Kightlinger: Gay Border

I've gone out with a couple of men who have realized that they were gay. Happened to me once in college, couple of years after college, and then again last year. I don't know, it's a bit humiliating, I have to say. I just feel like -- when did I become security at the gay border? 'Excuse me, sir? You want to come back here, please? You're not gay until you go through me first.'